Why women should perhaps avoid men with too much Bukowski at home

I don't want to be loved in spite of what is worst in me, but because of what is worst in me. I even go so far as to hope that what is worst in me is what people like best about me.

Michel Houellebecq - Public Enemies

The most intimate regret

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...the most intimate regret and the most hidden is not to have loved life.

E. M. Cioran, The Book of Delusions [full text]

Love as an emergent behavior

Love as an emergent behavior - in which case focus on the inputs and not the outputs, to which we have little direct access and even less control.